Shortly after my husband and I got married we decided that we were ready to expand our family. We knew we wanted children and we knew we wanted more than one, so we figured why not start while we were young. I was 18 when we got married and 3 months after getting married I found myself peeing on a stick (ok, 6 sticks-I just couldn’t believe the first 5 were telling me the truth!) I found myself confused (how did this happen so fast?), Joyed (We were going to be parents!), Excited (again, the thought of being parents make us so excited), and then there was nervousness and fear (what if I’m not the best Mom I can be? What if I can’t do things right? What if..what if..what if?) I am sure this is something that goes through the mind of every first time parent. We quickly got over the feelings of what if and focused on the “right now.”
Before long (I was 19 years old) and I had a beautiful baby boy! Things fell into place quite nicely and we knew that we were meant to be parents and have a family. About a year after our first child was born we started to talk about a second (we didn’t want our children to be too far apart in age). It wasn’t until 3 years later that our second child was born. We tried and tried to conceive (I bought books, such as Taking Charge of Your Fertility-I definitely recommend this book if you are trying to conceive. It’s very informative and can really help any woman learn more about her body. I’m glad I read it!)
We had heard about others going to an egg bank or fertility center in hopes to have children. While we wanted more children very much, we just weren’t sure if this was something we needed since we conceived our first child so quickly. After reading the Fertility book and thinking about things more, we decided to sort of give the trying to conceive a little break, and that is when it happened…I got pregnant! We were SO excited!
The rest of our children were born about 2 years from one another. The first 3 were very well planned and expected, while the last two were a little bit more of a surprise, but a very happy and exciting surprise…a blessing from God. (We had started to talk about “when” we were going to have more children and we were already pregnant-with both of them.)
I have to say that I’m a firm believer that things don’t always happen when and the way we want them to happen. Sometimes we just have to trust that God has a plan for us and while it may not seem ideal at the time, it’s definitely in our best interest. I couldn’t ask for a better life and feel that I have truly been “Blessed with Boys.”
So, what’s your story?
My husband and I were married for 5 years before we had kids. We tried and tried for about two years before I got pregnant. I really, really wanted to have kids but for some reason it just wasn’t happening for us. It got to the point where I was resentful about it. We never went to the doctors about it because if there was something wrong with him, I’d probably be super upset at him (even though logically I know it’s not his fault) and if there was something wrong with me, I’d probably spiral into depression. So going to the doctors was not a healthy option for us (me). Finally after about two years, I accepted the fact that maybe we weren’t mean to have children. So we decided to get hubby his dream car because it didn’t matter anymore that a car seat would not fit in it. A week after that, I found out I was pregnant. Like you, I peed on multiple sticks. Heck, I even had my husband pee on one just make sure that they all weren’t defective and just popping positive! Later that year, we were blessed with our little girl. Three years later came her little brother and I’m currently pregnant with baby #3 (our little surprise)! I absolutely agree with you that things don’t always happen when and the way we want them to happen. =)
Thank you SO much for sharing your story with us. I got a chuckle out of your husband peeing on the stick…he he! That is totally something I could see myself making my husband do! (I’m just surprised I never thought of that!) Congrats on your newest addition! What a blessing! 🙂
Hello, my story is a little different. I had my daughter when I was 25 and the doctors checked my for Cancer after she was born. I did not have it Thank God. But due to some complications I was told I would never have another baby and I was OK with that as I was a single mom and she was my life. When she turned 16 she was hit by a car and killed. I also wanted to die but I fought through that and went on. A year later my husband leaves me. Once again I want to die. Only I refuse to give him the satisfaction of me giving up. So I move on and in 2006 I met a terrific guy and we get married. Then in 2007 to my surprise I end up Pregnant and I have a son who is 4. So I must say God does not close one door without opening another and so I have been a mom twice.
Thank you So much for sharing your story Glenda. Isn’t it amazing how things can change so quickly in our lives? I totally agree with you about how God does not close one door without opening another. I am so glad that you kept your faith and pushed forward despite of the negative forces you were faced with. Your story really touched me. I often have to remind myself that when I’m faced with my biggest challenges and am feeling my lowest, there is always someone out there that is going through something much worse.
Wow!! The way you conceived your first born was exactly how I conceived mine. My daughter was conceived exactly 3 months after we were married and I was 19 when I had her. My son was conceived 11 months later
Thanks for sharing your story!
I got pregnant with Dylan while I was taking a BC pill to control the growth of my cysts. Even though we had been married for almost 4 years, we weren’t planning on having kids until we were 30. Lexie was conceived in one try, on father’s day. Lily was conceived within a month of trying. I definitely believe in God’s plan. We ended up with 2 kids by the time we were 26 and 27, and went on to have another. We may still have one more in us.
Great story! It sounds like God’s plan for you just started a little earlier than yours. 😉 You never can tell what path he has laid out for us, until we walk it. Your children are beautiful. You are truly blessed. 🙂